Charming Friend
K-san, our delightful friend, is in her 70s.
She always wears tasteful, small earrings and maintains excellent posture.
But what truly sets her apart is her warm and positive demeanor.
Spending time with her is a joy, and despite her physically demanding job, she never complains.
What’s her secret?
Not Letting Negativity Stick to the Brain
One day during our chat, K-san shared her approach.
“Sometimes I catch myself saying, ‘Well, I’m getting older,’ but then I immediately add something positive.
Like, ‘But don’t I look young for my age?’”
“After saying, ‘My back hurts,’ I follow up with, ‘But I walk a lot, so that’s impressive.’”
Hmm, interesting.
This seems to be K-san’s secret to staying charming.
Our brains are quite straightforward.
Whatever we hear, even if it’s a joke or modesty, we tend to believe it.
Unconsciously, some people convince themselves they’re old and useless, while others think, “I may be older, but I’m still vibrant and trying my best!”
Clearly, the latter is more appealing.
Yet, we all slip into complaining mode occasionally.
When that happens, try adding a positive twist.
Say, “But…” and find something uplifting.
Our brains tend to latch onto the last positive thing we say.
The 3-Second Rule
The challenge lies in swiftly replacing negativity with positivity.
The 3-second window is crucial.
Can you add something positive within those 3 seconds?
Consider keeping a “Happy Note” habit.
Each day, jot down three good things that happened.
It’s like extending your positive antenna.
Even if you accidentally express negativity, quickly rephrase it with something positive.
Let’s all master the art of staying cheerful!
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